i was coming home and on the way past the front door of the building, i saw Mrs. C. lurking around the entrance. i always talk to her if i can, cos she's old and apart from her son, she doesn't really have anyone to talk to, but when i don't have time, it's a pain, cos she's quite unstoppable when she wants to be - you'll have made your point, that you really have to leave, and she'll say 'ok, goodbye then' and as you walk away, she'll say 'but you know, that's what i was saying about...'
anyway, i parked my car in the garage, turned off the engine, but spent a few minutes inside, cos i had tons of things in the car and i had to gather them all. when i got out, Mrs. C. was standing in front of the garage. i said hello and asked her how she was, and she explained she had to get into her garage to get something but couldn't do it alone (she's in her 80s and uses a walker to get around). as i was laden with things, i asked if she would mind waiting 5 mns for me go drop them off at my place. of course not. unfortunately, while we were discussing things, i kind of forgot about where i was standing so when i closed my garage door, i banged my shoulder something terrible and frankly, all i wanted to do was leave her there alone.
when i got back, she fussed about my shoulder, which for some reason really annoyed me. i made light of it while we walked slowly to her garage and got the thing out. i carried it around despite her assertion that she could do it - let's face it, she had a walker to manage and i was empty handed. we took the lift to the 3rd floor and when we got in front of her door, she said she must give me a plant to thank me. i explained it wasn't necessary, but she insisted, so i had to tell her i had too many as it was and really couldn't deal with another one. which is totally true, but i also knew that it would take her another half an hour to choose a plant for me. she looked crestfallen, but once she'd opened her door and walked into her flat with me trailing behind with her thing, she rallied magnificently by saying that as i was there, i might as well have a look around the place. at this point, i had to tell her i was already late (which was kind of true) and really couldn't, after which i basically left to avoid any further brilliant ideas on her part.
a couple of days later, i got an email from her son, thanking me for helping his mother. then there were details about the TV problems the building has been having (he helps out the board a lot, so that was fine), after which he said that, as we both worked in Geneva, it'd be nice to have lunch sometime. and me thinking, no, really, it wouldn't. or rather, it would if he didn't have a thing for me. i really wouldn't feel comfortable. it was bad enough when we went to buy flowers to grow on the fence, which thankfully didn't last more than an hour and we had a specific purpose, but lunch... not happening. i'm pretty sure his mother put this new idea into his head, but apart from anything else, this guy must be a good 20 years older than me and we have nothing in common.
i haven't replied yet. i'm torn between following my friends' advice which was just say no (which seems a bit rude, despite the fact that i really don't owe this guy a thing) and another friend who said not to reply. originally, i was going to say lunch would never work out, but they all pointed out he was then bound to ask me out for dinner - although i think it'd be less hard for me to turn down his dinner invitation (which is clearly a come on of sorts) compared to turning down lunch (which is what friends normally have). i guess i'll just forget about it and hope he gets the message.