an eye opener on men

at a time where i was having trouble figuring out what a guy wanted (or didn't want) from me, one of my male friends sent me this explanation, which i think is hilarious and quite true for some men. i thought i'd share it in case other women out there are in a situation where it seems men make no sense:

"Men (boys) write emails [...] or say things completely flirtatious to someone, because it usually provokes some kind of response, and when men get a an indication that what they say is having an effect and that they are getting some attention, they like it.

What scares them though is commitment. So they will continue to flirt, but when confronted, or asked about their intention, they will deny that they are flirting and basically try and spin it, so it makes the girl looks as if she's the one that got it all wrong, they will then back away, until the opportunity presents itself again and they'll start all over again. This is the truth for all men, some grow out of it earlier than others. I've done it many many times.

The best way to deal with this kind of behaviour is not to respond to it, to become completely indifferent, though this almost always has the effect of making the man go crazy and make him realize that he's been silly and as a consequence he doubles his effort to get attention, which makes him look even more ridiculous in the eyes of the girl who by now has truly moved on from the pathetic idiot. This all ends with the man being heartbroken and feeling sorry for himself and he's convinced that he's really been treated unfairly.

Eventually boys grow up, I would say between the age of 39 to 43."

the funny thing is that, upon reading it, it was all so clear that i felt i'd somehow always known about this, but had never really taken it in. having it written down definitely makes it a lot clearer.