issues with my father

apart from everything else, one thing i'm really grateful for, about my father's birthday party, is the confirmation that my sister, myself and cousins aren't the only ones who think he should get out of that relationship. we've told him several times and he himself knows - he's told us several times he doesn't love her or anything, and that he'd much rather be with N. - but despite his assertions, he's still with her.

i know he doesn't want to be alone, etc, but i'm getting seriously worried now. she can't manage anything that's not her professional life, so dad ends up doing everything. which presumably explains why he was so stressed at his birthday. i mean, an hour before the big do, he didn't want to go anymore!

my second cousins agree with us. my father's best friend, whom he's known for 60 years, agrees with us. the unbiased new acquaintance, who also happens to be a psychologist, agrees with us. and presumably, a lot of other people also wonder what he's doing with her. for god's sake, apart from the locals and one or two others, no one at the party even knew who she was! this really does have to stop...