married men

a friend of mine is having a relationship with a married man. it's not a seedy thing - i've had all the details from the start, when it was just a friendship. things just proceeded along the logical course. while i'm not a big fan of dating married men, i can understand her situation and i feel for her. it's not easy. and while it's quite certain he doesn't love his wife in any way, shape or form, it doesn't make it better. but it's not really my place to say. she's happier now than when she was married, and that can only be good, although i'm pretty certain it will not end well.

and then, while talking to another friend recently, it seems pretty certain she's heading the same way. she didn't actually say so, but i know that she fell under her boss' charm the day she met him, when he interviewed her. then she went and asked me about my friend and how that was working out, which was just a little strange, so i made a point out of saying that no matter how it all started innocently, the unmarried person would always be the one left hanging while the married person still had their life, spouse, kids, etc, and that it was just sad, and hard to get out of, presumably. then it turns out he's now gone and invited her to dinner. just what she didn't need. i can't quite see how he's going to justify taking an employee to dinner on a day off to his wife, but i didn't ask. anyway, she's gone now and i can only hope she'll be strong and stay well away from disaster.